Dr. Thomas Graboys

[0:00]" The difference I want you to pay close attention because we have a very special guest on the line all my guests are special to me but this gentleman has written something that. It is worth reading in in any. Capacity whether you're a I'm young but like me and it. Healthy as a horse or whether you have some issues in your life on but certainly all of us have doctors and we look to our doctors for guidance and care when our doctors get. Into little trouble themselves we see them as human beings and one particular doctor one of the best in the business is doctor Thomas -- boys. Andy and he is a human being and he's very honest in letting us know what it's all about in life in the balance of positions memoir of life love and loss. With parkinson's disease. And dementia -- saw a doctor -- it was great honor to have you on the show. Now attacking due today above. The work you've been doing sort of after moving away from from doctoring you have written this book life in the balance and first -- tell me and my audience what life is like for you to now that you have this condition and and what you had to do. Differently in your life."

[1:11]" Like its name to let it. Struggle it's not just that Parkinson parkinson's maybe outside of -- people or -- Polonia each candidate. No logic -- If all of this line it. And an umbrella. Situation it's. Tony Clark they're they're written. The other major concern that it parkinson's. In -- call."

[1:45]" Louis body heavily which -- which leads to to what what does that mean."

[1:51]" It destruction and settled in the brain that piece at -- and the major problem that -- What's so frustrating about it that you go from fluctuations could date and that they can't particularly in the morning dictator. That's so it is terrible. The other problem -- associated with what's called Rem sleep. Which is kind of violent activities that it connector actually to essentially what it says it can't take it. Or -- about. -- any clinical --"

[2:31]" Is in your spouse is a beautiful lady. On who is it so much of what we do we depend on people and the people we love. And we weren't troubled boy do we depend on them and when they're of their forest off is that is that love of course she's a sweetheart."

[2:46]" He seemed to content. Turned on the ship in the port the -- That our relationship an article in the situation. Fortunately and situations the -- It is an important but I can't remember Cali in a situation where -- go it alone."

[3:13]" And talking with doctor Thomas Graham Boyce who for years and years has been and and I still considered to be one of the finest doctors. Heart as expert on specialist and someone who cares but his patience -- Tom you talk in the book above. Doctoring and how you would hold the hands of your patients. And not just to to examine them because hands -- but I think you you really do care about people and it's nice to know that people care about you I guess on the other side."

[3:42]" I wanted to mention of the new leash on Polk county and laundered around who -- that to -- in the colon problem and the -- Korean program. In line not seeing patients -- any more traditional sense I -- petitioner -- doctor in the morning in tackling which. Isn't there now but there are other options and they include teaching in connection -- in training. Focusing really crucial to connecting with a patient any time."

[4:27]" You write about very eloquently. Fighting -- While you were still in practice knowing that there were signs and symptoms of parkinson's but you you've thought that and I think you're like like any other human being you don't want to give up any of that which you work so hard and it must've been -- struggle of monumental proportions in -- and so difficult to fight through those days when you you knew you were having problems."

[4:53]" And that means that he would understatement in the brutal. In the game was stressed. And try to keep mechanical order code progressively feeling that he had difficulty. It cognitive structure in mind that it is nice. And it just -- relentless."

[5:13]" And help and colleagues as you point out doctor colleagues noticed -- of course there's your medical people and and that must have been kind of upsetting although knew you had to assumed he would notice at some point."

[5:25]" You know at some point in the patent clear and the and the -- Calling it tremendous patience and perseverance with me. The objective -- trying to -- like it continued and that. We're talking pretty much to treat you can put it into what is it they're trying to kind of politics because you know who left."

[5:49]" It's no problem no problem at all. One of the things that I was so touched by and I know you are -- the response from some of your patience woman found out that you wouldn't be practicing on a daily basis on you were very touched and maybe you could you share what people had to send you the people who you've treated what do they have to say when they found out."

[6:09]" Devastated that I wouldn't do well -- to abandon that many an opinion that there was this little. Number -- Incredibly supportive and clearly understand -- the bottom line with my little well being an alien doesn't received probably. Guest in the about 300 letters. It can be a little this year he -- me we've let. To think -- in the cocoon -- writing. One is -- that's true basis the other glove. And it into the game. To -- little --"

[6:57]" Talking with doctor Thomas great boys MD who wrote life in the balance of a beautiful book that people are. -- very excited about for very good reason it tells a story that we can all relate to and yet. It's it's subtitles that physicians memoir of life love and loss. With parkinson's disease and dementia you you must've been and you work and and and that is all of us wondering why a neat is that is that shifted have you ruled as the angered moved to another emotion at this point."

[7:30]" Anger and anger that's good it is an issue can turn -- melodic title okay try to minimize the quality index. It has only the police time and energy and -- Realize that -- they want to help me if for me. In that in powered. And is the sensation of --"

[7:54]" That is true and wouldn't -- his soul involved with helping other people as you are and continue to be when you realize oh my gosh it's almost like that movie it's a wonderful life you don't realize how many people really really really love you until you're in trouble sometimes."

[8:10]" You're absolutely right -- it. Part of the --"

[8:15]" Could mean putting together Howell I ain't going to redefine myself and -- losing. It is our constituents -- is that it wouldn't decided to do this the Republicans and we conclude look my office. In they'll be truthful patients in the Lee Lucas the other doctor capital companies in -- And convert -- doing and that means a lot -- patients is to maintain that incredible. Important context -- positions in and particularly in many. -- that technology is in effect trying to look yeah which means going to be a lot of older folks who've been thinking okay there's a lot of technology. How we deal with that."

[8:58]" Dealing with the person -- not just the physical -- with the person is so important news has."

[9:04]" I try to execute people related I would like it yeah my neurologist the patients had to that I collect -- it's not that that's. You know trying to learn who -- to do -- people that should take a couple of calls to tell me do it okay."

[9:21]" And that's nice and what I learned from people in my job and I talk with people from all walks of life in some of them are in pain and some of them are dealing with with challenge what I learn is we are not separated. Really it by anything more that would just -- just all part of the same family and everyone has an issue that there are dealing with their life with a physical emotional spiritual and it's how we how we sort of approaching a dead our way of life send it but really the people around us who support us it's so critical to get that support."

[9:56]" Yeah and it can get through it having. Glued --"

[10:05]" It's okay door about the script. My point was you know you can you can -- moan and groan. But after awhile people might not pay attention but if you if you express your love for the people and also your hope that they'll understand which is what -- doing that's a that's a very positive thing."

[10:22]" Yes you're absolutely right optimism it's important sense of humor is important Kinko's on the right in the achieved little boat. And control."

[10:33]" By the way you're -- double and I know you knew that I'll sit and talk about your your your -- your hair and -- very good looking guy. And down. Did you almost in you look like a doctor on TV don't you really get. You with a guy should be playing. The doctor on a soap operas on the nobody knows seriousness this disease parkinson's we don't have obviously a cure for it we have. An indication as to where it comes from and why."

[11:07]" Through the patient she can't find any reason -- they're they're going to be genetic. And -- lengthy exposure to different types of talks and but the bottom line is that who really don't have an easy explanation. The genetic aspect of -- may emerge but this is -- at this point we can deal with any. And he couldn't just. At a terrible daily issue look like."

[11:32]" It is it is devastating but you know something. People on live with this disease as they live with -- all kinds of things and -- I am so impressed with the average person who's got the courage to go along I mean and I wonder how while I would Sarah and I'm not sure -- It it really is remarkable and you've seen people suffering because you're -- doctor remarkable how much people can deal with."

[11:56]" Well you know limitations uncertainties in the wrong -- Incompetent major line."

[12:03]" I certainly hope people read this book and understand when they go to their own doctor. And that their own doctor is as human as they are on I learned a lot in reading lights in the balance and I just. That you continued to speak out and let people know -- the story and introduce people to blow to humanity which is what you done. -- my guess doctor Thomas grade boys spelled GR AB OYSE was part of the dream team he's one of the most revered in and experienced and well respected doctors in medicine today his book life in the balance he talks about his own life. And a memoir of life loss in love with parkinson's disease we'll be back with -- more WB's"